3 March 218
You may be thinking, come on now Princess Leia. You’ve had loads of dates. What’s the deal? You can’t just hold out for Han Solo. You know he doesn’t really exist. Maybe you should. You know… Compromise.
Whoa there tiger.
Yes, I’m picky. But I know exactly what I what, and I haven’t found it yet. And you can’t invent chemistry. It’s either there or it’s not.
I’ve often been asked what my criteria is. I think people think I have a list as long as my arm, but when you take away the holy grail of chemistry (which is in part based on physical attraction, a mental connection and on force of personality) then I’m really only looking for someone who:
– doesn’t live a million miles away
– has a decent job/is solvent
– isn’t an avid smoker
– is interested in sport (bonus if they get involved)
– wants a family
– Isn’t intimidated by a woman who can probably give them a run for their money in an arm wrestle
There are of course other things which make it more likely that we’ll get on like a house on fire, or that I’ll find them attractive (intellectual curiosity, good banter, ambition, shared beliefs and a healthy competitiveness). But I don’t get too hung up on those things. I don’t give a shit about age. I don’t really care about height or the clothes they wear. Or even where they take me (contrary to my prostestations). As long as we have a great connection and I think they’re hot.
Fancying them has proven to be the tricky part. I’m not a great believer in ‘letting someone grow on you’ if there’s no spark in the first place. There has to be something. They don’t have to be the best looking bloke in the world but I have to want them to rip my clothes off to some degree.
Some guys look hot in their photos but when I meet them they’re really quiet, shy, barely speak and lack confidence in their opinions. This is a massive let down. I need someone who won’t let me steamroller over them. Who won’t take my shit. Who matches my energy. Who has great banter.
I fully appreciate it works both ways and I’m probably quite an acquired taste. I’ve been told I’ve got nice eyes but i’m competitive, stubborn, have got thighs that can crack walnuts and a tendency towards the dramatic.
So the question becomes how can i increase my chances of meeting hot local single guys? Online dating, despite its obvious flaws, is at least good at exposure.
So it’s a numbers game I guess. A case of meeting lots of frogs. So I’ll just keep going until i find someone who catches my eye and quite likes walnuts.